At the airport some airlines let you check two bags, some three, and either one or two carry on items. And there’s always a weight penalty.
In relationships there aren’t as many check-in rules, you pretty much bring your bags with you and make up the rules as you go along. I define baggage as things you have going in your life such as kids, ex-spouses, job problems, a criminal record. The question is how much of that do you bring with you to the new relationship, and what should you leave behind? People who dated me probably thought I was carrying way to many bags, and when I met someone who went on and on about their ex and how they’ve been screwed over by the world it made me want to RUN.
So rather than get a weight penalty for two much baggage I think it’s a great idea to have a neutral person to talk to, either a counselor or psychologist, a third party to unload all that baggage. You’re paying them; so let them unburden you and your problems. Then when you are out meeting people you’ve left all those bags at home.
Naturally as you are getting to know someone your past will come up. But if you’ve gotten you head clear to the point of dealing with your baggage it can only help the new relationship.
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